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So, Skepticon 8


(First Disclaimer: Because I know trolls don’t respect boundaries, I’ll just make this clear – try to add trash to my comments section, no one will ever see your shit and you’ll be shown the door.)

(Second Disclaimer: It’s 4AM after my return from con, I’m sore in all of the places – thanks fibro – I’m exhausted -thanks fibro – and my patience for bullshit is damn near zero – thanks anxiety. I am not hosting a debate. That is your only warning)

Skepticon 8 Round Up!

Okay, so I went to Skepticon 8, and boy oh boy did I have a blast!  My workshop, Abortion Mythbustin’, was well attended, got some great audience participation and lots of good feedback afterwards.  The workshops and talk I managed to attend – again, thanks fibro, anxiety and good ol’ impostor syndrome – were mostly awesome.  I want to attend next year…

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Books You Can Read & 3 Documentaries You Can Watch Instead of Exposing Yourself to the Hegemonic Lies in the “Hidden Colors” Films

Read this twice.

Decolonize ALL The Things


So I have been thinking about writing this post for a while & now I’m finally getting to it.  In light of a lot of people paying attention to the extrajudicial murders of Black men in the news (& all the Black women being murdered by both the police & Black men but I see the reactionary cishetpatriarchs are ignoring that) a lot of people are open to trying to find out more about their Blackness, our history, and understanding how we got to where we are today.  Unfortunately reactionary cishetpatriarchal Black men & Black women are taking advantage of these interests & are directing many to hegemony painted in Black.

So in light of these misinformation campaigns, I decided to list out key texts on understanding race, ethnicity,  & how white supremacist racism works as well as some ACTUAL documentaries that do a way better job at providing historically accurate…

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Celebrating Solidarity at Frederick Douglass’s House

Intersectional Humanism

Chocolate City Skeptic's National Day of Solidarity for Black Nonbelievers Outing 2/22/15

February not only marks the celebration of Black History Month but the Annual National Day of Solidarity for Black Nonbelievers, an event founded by Donald Wright, author of The Only Prayer I’ll Ever Pray. The event was conceived as a day to encourage fellowship and solidarity for black non-believers, as well as to encourage community activism and social justice. It is fitting that during this time that we reflect on radical humanist and freethinkers of color who fought for the equality and justice. And so, to celebrate Chocolate City Skeptics decided to visit the estate of one of these figures who once called The District his home: Frederick Douglass. Frederick Douglass is one of the often celebrated black humanist/secular figures that you often see referenced in the atheist secular community.

We visited Douglass’s beautiful Cedar Hill home, in Anacostia, in the Southeastern part of the city. Douglass purchased this home…

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nivedita menon: feminism and the family – thoughts on international women’s day


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Excerpts from my forthcoming book Seeing Like a Feminist (Penguin India/Zubaan Books).

Have you heard of ‘nude make-up’?

This is what it is:

‘Nude makeup looks are all about your skin looking fresh and dewy, without looking like you’re even wearing any makeup. All you need is eyeliner, mascara, nude lipstick, and a highlighting blush that will give your skin a natural-looking glow.’[1]

The whole point of nude makeup clearly, is to spend hours painting your face in order to make it look like you never touched it at all.

The maintaining of social order is rather like that. It requires the faithful performance of prescribed rituals over and over again throughout one’s lifetime. Complex networks of cultural reproduction are dedicated to this sole purpose. But the ultimate goal of all this unceasing activity is to produce the effect of untouched naturalness.

When one ‘sees’ the world like a…

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Abortion 101


For such a contentious issue, exactly how abortions are performed is still shrouded in mystery to the general public. This has the unfortunate consequence of allowing misinformation to spread. This presentation aims to give a basic overview of 1st, 2nd, 3rd, and medicine abortions and the myths surrounding each. CONTENT WARNING for depictions of fetal remains.

Presenter: Niki Massey

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Why I am not Charlie

This is the best statement I have seen on this so far.

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imagesThere is no “but” about what happened at Charlie Hebdo yesterday. Some people published some cartoons, and some other people killed them for it.  Words and pictures can be beautiful or vile, pleasing or enraging, inspiring or offensive; but they exist on a different plane from physical violence, whether you want to call that plane spirit or imagination or culture, and to meet them with violence is an offense against the spirit and imagination and culture that distinguish humans. Nothing mitigates this monstrosity. There will be time to analyze why the killers did it, time to parse their backgrounds, their ideologies, their beliefs, time for sociologists and psychologists to add to understanding. There will be explanations, and the explanations will be important, but explanations aren’t the same as excuses. Words don’t kill, they must not be met by killing, and they will not make the killers’ culpability go away.

To abhor what was done to the victims, though, is not…

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Moving Social Justice with People of Color Beyond Faith

Intersectional Humanism


“There is no such thing as a single issue struggle because we do not live single issue lives.”
– Audre Lorde

The weekend of October 11th and 12th marked the first Moving Social Justice Conference presented by People of Color Beyond Faith, a project of Black Skeptics Group. The goal of the conference wasto address issues of social justice from a radical humanist perspective and brought together organizers, activists, community leaders, and thinkers from different walks of life to discuss topics ranging from feminism to the school to prison pipeline. So it was a real departure from the general topics addressed by mainstream secular/ humanists groups that narrowly focus on issues of visibility, anti-theism, and science education. This conference embodied, as Debbie Goddard stated during the conference, that “intersectionality is our lives”. And for those of us who stand at the various intersections of race, class, gender, and sexuality those…

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Allyship Fail!

It has come to my attention that the video entitled “Black Men Actors In Dresses! ‘We Men… Aint We?’” has been taken down from youtube.

FYI, Jeremiah Camara, removing a video with a hateful message regarding homophobia and transphobia ≠ “unapologetic” (his words) support for the LGBT community.

Unfortunately, #cpacatheists and your other supporters don’t seem to care about demonstrating their unapologetic support for the LGBT community by not supporting a bigot. But I have learned that when the mainstream movement equates attacking believers with social justice they cannot be depended on to do the right thing.

Where is your “unapologetic” support for the LGBT community, Camara?

Black Women: Stereotypes, Shame, Violence, and Racialized Misogyny

“All these sassy, angry, ghetto, “wanna be a man”, hood rat, ratchet black bitches have got to go!”

I don’t know about you, but I think these lazy uncritical racist misogynist losers need to go! And take their with them! I am tired of the shaming, stereotyping, and scapegoating of black women that goes on both in and out of the black community. I am tired of seeing violence perpetuated against black women put forth as entertainment.

It sickens me to see people post  these videos of young black women being beaten or confronted with disproportionate violent responses for their unruly behavior. But aside from the violence depicted in these videos what really troubles me is the way people enjoy these videos and revel in the violent actions taken against these black women.

In my last blog, “Ain’t I a skeptic?,”I briefly discussed Christianity relates to the concept of racial identity and racism among other things. One facet I did not discuss was how this factors into how we think about morality as relates to race. This is important as one of the reasons given in favor of imperialism was to civilize the savage. Nevermind, for now, how savage imperialism and colonialism was (and continues to be for some) for people of color. For example, stereotypes of black women as particularly “loose” or sexual led to the Jezebel stereotype and irrational fear of black men led them to be stereotypes as hypersexualized animals. And so violence and subjugation of blacks and other people of color was justified as something for their own good, even sanctioned by god. This type of violence was also seen as entertainment, FYI. And in the midst of striving to gain acceptance and gain rights Western blacks found it necessary to assimilate particularly to the gender standards and conservative views on sexuality. Darlene Clark Hines writes about how black women in the past have had to at time sacrifice their right to sexual expression (and I would argue other forms of expressions as well) in return for “respect and recognition”thought to be a deterrent from rape and domestic violence. Because we all know victims are always to blame right?

Black women who organized on behalf of civil and political rights both before and after slavery weren’t even safe from insults and attacks based on their gender and sexuality. And so it should come as no surprise that later in the 1960’s that Stokely Carmichael, and others, would say that the only position for women in the movement was “prone”. During the sixties many blacks saw black power and liberation as tied to black men controlling and dominating not just the movement, but black women and children as well. After all, is that not what the bible and society instructs: that man is to be the head of his woman and his children, you know- his property. And so it should So many in the movement were ” telling black women to step back into a domestic, submissive role,” as experienced by many people in the movement like Francis Beale, a black feminist, who wrote:

[The black male] sees the system for what it really is for the most part, but where he rejects its values and mores on many issues, when it comes to women, he seems to take his guidelines from the pages of the Ladies’ Home Journal. Certain black men are maintaining that they have been castrated by society but that black women somehow escaped this persecution and even contributed to his emasculation.

To me I think Beale’s analysis of the mindset of many black men of the 1960’s fits with the mindset of those individuals that enjoy and promote these videos depicting this violence against black women. Like the men she describes, there seems to be a lot of resentment in the black community towards black women today as well. But I think this resentment is best summed up by this excerpt from a paper written by black nationalist, Larry Delano:

The ‘hyperliberated’ black woman is in fact so much of a man that she has no need for men… the black race would be better served without them.

Mind you this man was prescribing polygamy to combat the “problem” of households run by single black mothers and viewed homosexuality as a form of betrayal. Similarly, many other identities and behaviors are also regarded as betrayal within the black community particularly where black women are concerned. We can’t win. The way society defines what it is to be American excludes us and for many in the black community what defines what it means to be an acceptable or respectable black woman is just as limiting. Black women are expected to conform to all the patriarchal mores accepted in black culture AND fight racialized stereotypes on behalf of the race.

Black women, as a double minority, have to contend with both racism and sexism. An intersection that can be difficult to articulate at times, as the misogyny we face is often racialized. You aren’t just a bitch but a “black bitch”. As if to say there is some category below just being a simple “bitch” where black women can be found. As though, no category could possibly be any lower. And it doesn’t take much to be thrown in that category, all you need do is say something unpopular above a whisper in the wrong company. Any display of strength by a woman is an affront to to patriarchy. We are held to stricter standards of docility, punished more severely for our sexuality, and blamed for socioeconomic realities we didn’t create and certainly don’t perpetuate by ourselves. This labeling just another way to dismiss and dehumanize black women. Nonetheless, black women are shamed as not only black bitches but hoodrats, hoochies, ratchet, etc. Some of these people defend their behavior saying they only attack “those women” but how long before ‘those women” become all black women? Not long if you ask me. Once within hip hop, the term “bitch” was defended as something only used to describe a certain type of woman. Now it is a term used universally as both an insult and term of endearment. “Nappy headed hoes” was a term used to describe black female scholar-athletes by Don Imus. The media has gone after First Lady Michelle Obama as an angry black woman and has even been called a “baby’s mama”. If an educated, poised, intelligent woman like Michelle Obama can be attacked in this way, then no black woman is safe from these sorts of labels.

And last night, The Onion called Quvenzhané Wallis ” a cunt”. As if to say, “how dare she insist that people learn to pronounce her non-European name properly?!” And thank you Anti-Intellect for pointing out the hypocrisy of people who defend this little girl and her name simply because she is familiar and has a “veneer of respectability” from her association with Hollywood, when they would otherwise shame people with equally unique or “ghetto” names.

Campaigns like “Die Hoodrat, Die”, people like Tommy Sotomayor, and others ignore the socioeconomic realities that lead to dysfunction within the ghetto to target black women as though they are the cause. They blame single motherhood entirely on women; as though it is only black women who are responsible for the trend and never question if the idealized nuclear family model is all it’s cracked up to be in the first place. They blame black women they label as ghetto or a hoodrat without acknowledging the ghetto or the hood is a place. a place where economic depression, lack of access to quality education, poverty, crime, health disparities, institutionalized racism, etc all converge. This creates a reality where parents are absent (whether trying to make a living, or incarcerated, or struggling with addiction, etc), aggression is a means of survival, and all of this is happening within a larger culture that is fixated on conspicuous consumption. It is far too easy to write all of this off and argue that the people or women of the ghetto need to take personal responsibility for their lives. This approach is simplistic, anti-humanist, and yields no long-term solutions.

I have at times in my past been guilty of labeling other black women hoodrats or other negative things. But today, I reject that mindset as it kept me from seeing the humanity we share. It kept me from seeing how those perceptions by society at large tells not just black women but all people in the ghetto that they are neither worthy of love nor respect but disdain, dismissal, AND violence. It can and does effect their expectations of their society and of themselves.

If we want to see the culture of the ghetto change it is going to mean changing our mentality first. And this is why I do not believe that people that engage in this type of shaming care anything about these women or the betterment of the lives of people in the ghetto. This is about how misogyny allows people to uncritically blame women for the problems of society and how white supremacy encourages people to blame those it oppresses for their own oppression. This is about putting black women in their “place”. This is about shaming black women into subservience and conforming to patriarchal ideals, not the betterment of the race or the conditions faced by those in the ghetto. Pointing and laughing, shaming, and encouraging the use of violence to chasten people whose behavior you don’t approve of does not promote positive change. Anyone who defends that type of behavior with that sort of reasoning is either lying or uninformed. We have to change ourselves before we have any hope of helping to promote positive change elsewhere.

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